All is not lost
This past week was remarkable in a bunch of different ways, but two particular conversations stood out with reference to relationships and I was really caused to think about how the times have changed.
To begin with, a friend of mine from elementary school and I were talking about how men seemed to have become less spontaneous over the decades. Now I realize this is a peculiar sentence but let me justify it.
One of the things that she noted was the idea of courtship. It was the biggest issue back in the day and if the lady was not courted properly with gifts and favour, it was not deemed to be a good match. The most prominent one though that she and I laughed and sighed at was the concept of the man asking the father of the lady if they would be allowed to date. Such a simple step from the get-go had to be approved by the family and the "head of the house" (please see My Big, Fat, Greek Wedding haha!).
She sounded discouraged when she asked me what had happened over the years? Was family not as important as it once was? Yeah, gifts and favours aren't necessarily in fashion (I wouldn't want constant flowers nor stuffed animals... in fact, I wouldn't want them period), but there is something to be said about the boldness of the man to ask the father if he could please date the father.
It shows the sincerity, and is indeed commendable.
The second conversation happened on Friday afternoon. I am blessed to be closely associated with a man who is one of the more godly and encouraging individuals I know. We were talking again about the importance of doing it right in relationships and what that included. He mentioned that for him to date, it was not only necessary to consult the parents of the woman, but it was as surefire way of showing respect. Among other things, the respect really weighed heavily upon this man and his desire to put any relationship before God and to have it be matched in a biblically sound way.
This is so cool - in the time span of five days the question was asked and the answer was presented, but from one individual's perspective. It's indeed something to find a man who would risk that awkwardness for you, who would take up the old and dusty robe of chivalry and keep it.
The men are out there and they're looking just as much as you are ladies.
Keep going, they'll come!
To begin with, a friend of mine from elementary school and I were talking about how men seemed to have become less spontaneous over the decades. Now I realize this is a peculiar sentence but let me justify it.
One of the things that she noted was the idea of courtship. It was the biggest issue back in the day and if the lady was not courted properly with gifts and favour, it was not deemed to be a good match. The most prominent one though that she and I laughed and sighed at was the concept of the man asking the father of the lady if they would be allowed to date. Such a simple step from the get-go had to be approved by the family and the "head of the house" (please see My Big, Fat, Greek Wedding haha!).
She sounded discouraged when she asked me what had happened over the years? Was family not as important as it once was? Yeah, gifts and favours aren't necessarily in fashion (I wouldn't want constant flowers nor stuffed animals... in fact, I wouldn't want them period), but there is something to be said about the boldness of the man to ask the father if he could please date the father.
It shows the sincerity, and is indeed commendable.
The second conversation happened on Friday afternoon. I am blessed to be closely associated with a man who is one of the more godly and encouraging individuals I know. We were talking again about the importance of doing it right in relationships and what that included. He mentioned that for him to date, it was not only necessary to consult the parents of the woman, but it was as surefire way of showing respect. Among other things, the respect really weighed heavily upon this man and his desire to put any relationship before God and to have it be matched in a biblically sound way.
This is so cool - in the time span of five days the question was asked and the answer was presented, but from one individual's perspective. It's indeed something to find a man who would risk that awkwardness for you, who would take up the old and dusty robe of chivalry and keep it.
The men are out there and they're looking just as much as you are ladies.
Keep going, they'll come!
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